The themes of your dreams

Pubblished by Bruno Bara Nicoletta Causi on Dream Psychology Dream Research Dreamboard Inc. How To
October 7, 2013

Hi Dreamboarders,
we are well on our way towards a better knowledge of Dreamboard and our dreams. Here’s the final post regarding the themes present in your dreams.

For example, do you feel abandoned, guilty or free in your dreams? This is very important in order to understand your oneiric activity and becoming aware of what your unconscious is telling you.

Read the following and let us know if there is anything else you are curious about on the subject of dreams.

Tracking the themes of your dreams with Dreamboard

After using DB to analyze the more emotional aspects of a dream (Emotions in dreams, The colors of a dream, Physical presence in the dream), together with more cognitive aspects (The weirdness of dreams, People, places and things in dreams), we should be able to identify a few central themes. These could include lovableness and refusal, value and disappointment, power and weakness, freedom and oppression, truth and falsehood, justice and injustice, goodness and evil, and many others.

We can consider these themes as attractors of meaning that take various thoughts, emotions and feelings and summarize them in a single concept, leading us to a greater awareness of ourselves and how we function, both in dreams and in everyday life. We might in fact recognize in our dreams the importance of one theme in particular, or, by making comparisons with the themes and issues that are important to us in everyday life, we might notice interesting differences and similarities … I could realize, for example, that even in my dreams freedom is a critical issue for me, as well as the sense of constraint connected with its absence, because I often track dreams related to this issue. Or else or I could realize that what is really important for me is feeling loved and protected – themes of lovableness and security – even though in everyday life I am comfortable in the role of a self-sufficient individual, someone who never asks for anyone’s help…

Why is it important to be aware of which issues are most important to you?

 

Our beliefs and sensitivity to particular themes contribute to the creation of our life situations

We are all accustomed to considering our reactions and attitudes as a result of events. The typical thought pattern is something like: “Given that this has happened, I will do this …” Thus when someone disappoints us, we tend to interpret our disappointment as being caused by that person’s inappropriate behavior, or we explain a sense of feeling oppressed by someone as being caused by that person’s excessive proximity.

A deeper reading should attempt to consider our own tendency to be disappointed or feel oppressed as a feature that belongs to us, regardless of how others behave towards us.

Widening our perspective, we may find that we ourselves construct the situations to which we apparently react. For example, our ability to be disappointed might be well prepared in advance by an exaggerated idealization of the other, to whom we attribute the impossible gift of possessing every good quality possible (this, essentially, is the initial mechanism of falling in love). Inevitably we later discover that even this very special human being possesses some defect or another, and then, the more this person was idealized, the more we feel dramatically disappointed.

Similarly, my ability to feel oppressed, which at first glance appeared to be generated by an inexplicable desire of the other person to control and constrain me, can be read in a broader manner. You might even discover that it was you who was trying to draw closer to the other in a gradual and rewarding way, only to feel invaded by and uncomfortable with this new intimacy, and then feeling the need for a little more space and freedom. So you draw back, after having encouraged the other to reduce the distance, and the more that person tries to draw closer again, the more you get annoyed and cannot stand the other’s attention for you.

A key step of awareness is to understand how our emotional and cognitive way of functioning dictates what we perceive of the social world, in our attempt to order it in a consistent manner. This consistency belongs to us, not to the environment that surrounds us. So, some of us happen to be particularly sensitive to disappointment, or oppression, responsibility, sacrifice or guilt, etc. Some of us, for example, are more sensitive to the issue of personal value, and thus suffer much more than others in judgmental situations, such as exams, compared to others who, for example, are particularly sensitive to the theme of vulnerability. This latter type of person, rather than about an exam, will be more inclined to worry about all those situations in which he or she perceives the risk of injury or death, such as traveling alone, or by plane, etc.

Our emotional receptors are what allows us to recognize blue, green, yellow, black or white in the world that surrounds us. They constitute what we perceive, even if subjectively there appears to be an objective reality and it seems that all we do is observe it. We acquire over time a particular sensitivity towards certain aspects of the social world, which we notice in a preferred way and respond to with greater urgency. So it is not the world that affects us in an objective way, but rather in the way we are accustomed to perceiving and interpreting the world in our heads …

Dreams as a tool for increasing our self-awareness.

It is therefore very important for all of us to have ever greater awareness of what themes in life are most important for us, the ones to which we are most sensitive. This will allow us to better understand who we are, our strengths and weaknesses, and to gain more power over ourselves and the events that affect us, without feeling helpless and at the mercy of external events, but rather active actors who contribute, thanks to our own characteristics, to their creation.

Dreams are experiences in which both perceptual-cognitive frames and consciousness are deactivated, and when dreams are analyzed by focusing on the original emotions, without any spirit of profit-taking or utility, but only with the curiosity of an explorer, they become excellent tools for increasing our awareness of the themes in life that are relevant for us, or potentially so. These tools – dreams – can also increase our awareness of how we see and hear both ourselves and others, both in dreams and in reality. We can recognize our frames, accept them and understand them, but also deal with them more freely, finally moving beyond our rigid automatic processes.

Previous posts: explore them

In order to explain more clearly what the scientific bases of Dreamboard, we are publishing in this blog different articles written by Professor Bruno Bara and Dr. Nicoletta Causi:

Introduction to the theory of dreams and Dreamboard 
Emotions in dreams
The meaning of colors in dreams
Why is bodily experience also important in dreams
The weirdness of dreams
People, places, things
Themes

 

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